I feel inspired today.
Watching the news this morning, I saw thousands of happy people having a water fight – in the streets. Intrigued, I discovered that they were celebrating the Buddhist New Year.
A clean start.
Traditionally, the act of pouring water over someone’s head symbolizes the washing away of evils over the past year. It is an opportunity to give a clean start. As well, Buddha images are washed, temples repainted and homes are cleaned from top to bottom.
What this means to me:
Today, I am taking this opportunity to reflect over the past year. As I look at my successes and areas for improvement, I think that I need to focus more on “intention”.
I have a hard time when I hear a “tone” in someone’s voice. I always have.
- How many arguments have you had, just because of a “tone” in another person’s voice?
- And if you didn’t have an actual argument, did the “tone” still bother you?
When hubby SOUNDS angry, agitated, and/or frustrated in response to something I have said I assume he’s angry, agitated and/or frustrated.
- It always gets me upset.
- When I get upset, he always responds “I’m not angry” (in an angry voice).
- Then I always respond, “Then don’t talk to me with that tone!”
- And, so on….
I must admit that as I write those feelings down, I am thinking to myself…”why wouldn’t I get upset?”
But this is about changing something I want to improve upon in ME.
If the definition of crazy is doing something over and over again – but expecting a different result – then I need to do something different! In the spirit of the Buddhist New Year:
- The next time I hear the “TONE” I will ask “How do you really feel about what I just said? I ask because you sound angry.”
- Wow, that sounds tough. Holy Moly…wonder if I can do it? I can at least try.
- Perhaps it will have a different impact on the negative situation?
- Maybe I will find out something new about what hubby is thinking.
- Worst case scenario is that we end up in an argument – and we would’ve had one anyway – so worth a try!
- I will let you know how it goes.
A Day of “No-Day”
I also learned that in the Buddhist Lao New Year (April 14-16th), the second day of the festival is the “Day of No-Day”. It’s a day that isn’t part of the old year or the new year.
I like the idea that we are neither focusing on the past or the future. We are just where we are. We are free of all the mind-traps (racing thoughts) that we can get ourselves into when we can’t be in the moment.
Today, I will try to be more mindful about being just where I am today and not where I was.
What do you think about the traditions of the Buddhist New Year?
Please add any of your own traditions/ideas of your own, that gives you a fresh start and a new way of thinking.
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